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TODAY: Secretary Perdue and USDA Officials to Hold EMBARGOED Press Call Regarding a Proposal to Close SNAP “Broad-Based Categorical Eligibility” Loophole
(Washington, D.C., July 22, 2019) – Today, U.S. Secretary of Agriculture Sonny Perdue and U.S. Department of Agriculture (USDA) Acting Deputy Under Secretary Brandon Lipps will hold an off-camera, on-the-record embargoed briefing regarding USDA’s specific plans to close the Supplemental Nutrition Assistance Program (SNAP) “Broad-Based Categorical Eligibility” Loophole. The briefing will be conducted via conference call beginning at 5:00pm ET, and the information will be embargoed until 12:00am ET Tuesday, July 23rd. The number of lines are limited and available on a first-come, first-served basis, so please limit to one per outlet.
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Tampa Bay Times
By Patricia Levesque, Chief Executive Officer for ExcelinEd
No matter where Florida lawmakers stand on K-12 education policy, there is one area where they can readily find common ground: expanding computer science education.
Computing occupations are now the top source of all new wages in the United States, with computing jobs accounting for more than half of all projected new openings in STEM fields.
In Florida, there are nearly 18,000 open computing jobs representing more than $1.4 billion in potential annual salaries. The average salary for a computing job in Florida is $80,276, nearly double the state’s average. Yet with a limited supply of qualified job seekers, companies are struggling to fill these positions.
Case in point: Florida is producing fewer than than 3,000 computer science college graduates each year and computer science education is not widely available to Florida’s K-12 students. And Florida is not alone. Only 35 percent of high schools nationwide offer students any computer science courses, and only 10 percent of STEM graduates study it.
Why? States simply do not have enough qualified computer science teachers to meet the needs of today’s students. This despite widespread support for expanding access and opportunities for computer science learning. Consider, nearly 70 percent of parents — and 56 percent of teachers — believe that computer science should be taught in school, according to multi-year research.
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Business Betrayals: Protecting
Yourself From Workplace Treachery
Betrayal in business can come in many forms.
A supervisor who gives specific directions for a project, then lays the blame squarely on you when things go awry. An employee who fails to inform you of a high-end client’s unhappiness, leaving you blindsided and feeling the CEO’s wrath when the client cancels a contract.
In such scenarios, the person betrayed can feel angry, devastated and perhaps unsure whether to ever trust anyone again, say Elaine Eisenman, PhD, and Susan Stautberg, co-authors of Betrayed: A Survivor’s Guide to Lying, Cheating, & Double-Dealing. These two successful business women say they themselves have experienced betrayal professionally and personally.
“In all relationships we trust others, believing that while they will look out for their own best interest, they will also respect ours,” Stautberg says. “Unfortunately, that’s not always so.”
In business, there’s no guarantee that even a good friend or family member deserves your confidence.
“Regardless of how well you know someone, treat any business arrangement with due diligence,” Eisenman says. “Motives can be hidden, even with the best of friends.”
So, how can business leaders and their employees avoid betrayals that can harm them and their organizations? And how should they handle the fallout if they are betrayed? Eisenman and Stautberg offer a few suggestions:
Learn to trust wisely. Blind trust can make you an easy target because you ignore the potential for human nature’s darker side, Stautberg says. But it’s also ill-advised to assume no one can be trusted ever. What you’re after, she says, is “wise trust,” which allows you to weigh each situation, assessing whether there is low or high probability of betrayal.
Listen to what your gut tells you. So-called “gut feelings” act as an early warning system. “Ignore those feelings at your own peril,” Eisenman says. She shares the story of a woman named Ingrid, a chief finance officer in the public sector who was involved in the recruiting of a comptroller who came highly recommended. Ingrid preferred to handle reference checks herself, but that was HR’s job so she backed off, even though something told her this job candidate’s credentials were too good to be true. She shouldn’t have ignored her instinct because after he was hired the comptroller was charged with white-collar crimes committed in another state. For Ingrid, this became a triple betrayal – by colleagues who tried to make her the scapegoat, by HR, who didn’t perform a thorough background check, and, of course, she was betrayed by the man she hired.
Don’t seek revenge immediately – if at all. Planning revenge continues to provide the betrayer with power over you rather than allowing you to take that power into your own hands. It’s more productive to distance yourself from the betrayal and shore up your emotions with rational thoughts. That will help you begin to derive lessons from the traumatic event.
If you are betrayed, there is no need to beat up on yourself. “It is critical to recognize that what you are feeling is completely normal,” Eisenman says. “If you blow the event out of proportion, exaggerating its impact on all aspects of your life, you’ll only postpone your recovery.”
“The key to moving forward is self-compassion,” Stautberg says. “Get yourself to a safe space, both physically and emotionally, and get some sleep. Being rested will help you think clearly and you’re going to need your wits to survive.”
Reactions to stress differ. So, don’t worry if your immediate reaction includes anger. Try to balance it and take the energy to hold onto your power. Surround yourself with friends. Have the courage to move forward and leave the past behind. Learn to pivot. Eisenman and Stautberg discovered that the formula for success is creating a new positive, self-confidence about work and informed risk taking. Learn how to BOUNCE – Be Bold, Optimistic, Undaunted, Nimble, Courageous, and Empowered.
About Elaine Eisenman, PhD
Elaine Eisenman, PhD, co-author with Susan Stautberg of Betrayed: A Survivor’s Guide to Lying, Cheating, & Double Dealing, currently serves as an independent Board Director for DBI, Inc. (NYSE), as well as for AtmosXR and Miravan, both privately held companies. She is the Managing Director of Saeje Advisors, LLC, an advisory firm for high growth ventures. Former Dean of Executive and Enterprise Education at Babson College, she works closely with CEOs and their executive teams to create cultures that accelerate growth. She is a frequent speaker on the topic of turning risk into opportunity.
About Susan Stautberg
Susan Stautberg is Governance Advisor to the portfolio companies of Atlantic Street Capital, a private equity firm. She is also President and CEO of PartnerCom Corporation and Chair Emeritus of the WomenCorporateDirectors Education and Development Foundation (WCD). Susan addresses groups around the world, including leading business schools and CEO conferences. She has written or been featured in numerous articles including The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, and The Financial Times and her on-air experience includes Oprah, The Today Show, CBS Evening News, CNN and many others.
